"I texted your India number today, in the vain hope that somehow you'll get it and somehow reply.
Fuck you."
I woke up to this rude message today, and though I haven't known this person for very long, and sometimes I don't even see them for months on end, I consider them to be my best friend. Why? Becuase I feel like our friendship is a massive, 365 day sugar high.
Your best friends should be the ones whose relationships with you are a pleasure to maintain.
If it is exhausting to draw forward the energy to connect with them and understand them, then something is probably wrong.
I'm not saying that it shouldn't require any energy, all relationships need near constant work and attention, but it should come easily and willingly most of the time. Atleast for the ones you consider closest to you.
I've realized that some of my relationships, I tend to execute like homework, I procrastinate till the last second and then end up staying up to do it so I can get the credit. I think I do this partly because I really like the idea of the person or I am used to having them in my life, but mostly because I am too stubborn to admit that they don't mesh with me as well as they "should" or as well as they used to, and consequently, I find myself sticking it out through all the parts that I really don't have fun with at all.
I've realized that your BEST friends don't necessarily have to be the ones that you've known the longest, or the ones that know you best, or the ones that you have been through the most with.
I've realized that your REAL friends don't necessarily have to be the ones you spend the most time with, or the ones you talk to the most, or the ones you share the most similarities with.
I've realized that your friends today don't necessarily have to be your friends tomorrow, because people change, including us and that's okay. Even if all friends accepted and embraced change, sometimes change does alter your relationship and THAT requires acceptance too.
I've realized that as soon as you stop expecting your oldest friends to always be your best friends, and your most contacted friends to be your true friends, you can be honest with yourself about who you really enjoy spending time with and who you know truly enjoys having YOU as a friend. and I think thats a very profound thing to know.
Happy (late) Friendship Day.
