I asked a lot of people. Not many gave me a solid answer, but these are the ones I got.
- No. Its something you feel. You cant choose to be or not to be.
-Definitely. You choose who is important to you. No one else can pick for you.
- No. I think love happens on its own. But you have a choice to either remain in love, or to get out of it. Its a tough choice to and make and to implement, but it can be done. (LOL this person clearly knows what made me ask this)
-You can choose to love someone only when you accept the fact that you want to and you know they're worth loving.
-Initially, maybe. But after that you can't help it.
- Never. It happens when it happens.
- I think we need it. =) It shouldnt be a choice.
-So, there is currently a debate as to whether free will actually exists, ur subconcious is always doing stuff u dont know about and it is suggested that it already knows what its gonna do, but gives u the illusion that u have a choice (I love you Skammy)
alling in love is the biggest example. when u fall in love, what do u feel? all u think about is the other person, everytime u see them u get a special feeling, and all u wanna do is spend time with them. This is a cascade of chemicals telling u to do that. serotonin is what makes u continuously think of them (its also been shown in high levels in OCD patients when they cant think of anything else besides one little detail), Oxytocin, also known as the "cuddle" neurotransmitter, rushes when u see them making u happy and feel funny, and Nerve Growth factor is a chemical with a really long half life that makes that feeling exist for a long long time, or it could run out in days and you move on
The combo of these neuropeptides give u the feeling of falling in love, making u think u really like the person, when really ur brain is just enhancing the way u see them, putting them on a pedastool (I still love you Skammy)
- Hard to know with your brain controlling all the chemical aspects of it.
And my favorite ones
-Its a chemical accident whose product you have the choice to keep or throw away.
- What you think of love is what you make of it. So if you want it to be a choice, it is. (lol, this person totally is my fav person today)
-So, personally (and I know u hate this), I believe that there are some things we cant control. Liking people is one of these, you cant choose to like someone, its something you feel. And to fall in love, well thats something completely out of our hands, because to truely love someone unconditionally is not normal. People are generally rational, but love is the most irrational experience one could fathom and to choose to fallow that emotion would go against the nature of people. And yet they do it anyway. I dont think we are dumb enough to choose who we fall in love with, cause if it were up to us we wouldent fall in love at all. There is something else out there, a fate of sorts, that gifts us with the elation of love and that kind of happiness can never be manufactured by the choices we make. (SO TRUE! IF IT WAS A CHOICE I WOULDNT BE DUMB ENOUGH TO DO IT)
